Can we joke about the body image?

Since ELLET, there was a period of time when the aggressive Photoshopping of women's bodies presented itself as the biggest problem of society. I was young and the body image was the most important question at mebecause I was not happy with my body. It seemed to me that in order not to hate myself for weighing more than a Olsen twin, I had to hate the world because I felt so. I had of course reason to be angry. It's outrageous to lose all the power of the female brain to feel bad about not looking like a fictional photographic illustration. But I would also have liked to be able to channel this anguish towards art or to protest the war in Iraq. To be deeply concerned about body image problems was, for me, a way to keep thinking about my weight and the bodies of others all the time. I'm thinking about this period recently, while I'm Good place the positivity crusade of the body of actor Jameela Jamil. Jamil, who had an eating disorder as a teenager and did not care about tabloids for weight gain, is currently the hottest Hollywood critic of media and celebrities promoting unhealthy weight loss diaries. or who focus too much on the weight of women. "Patriarchy takes advantage of the fact that women are conditioned to think only of our outside, to spend all our money and time being obsessed with our aesthetics rather than building what is in the world. inside, "Jamil told ELLE in September. While reading the interview, I remembered how electrifying it was to meet this idea for the first time. I almost feel the moldy mat of the dormitory. Jamil has asked for the ban on airbrushing because it is a crime against women. She launched a campaign in which women say what they weigh but, instead of a number, list their accomplishments. I applauded when she criticized Iggy Azalea, Khloe Kardashian, Cardi B and Amber Rose for promoting discount codes for Flat Tummy Tea and Teami on Instagram, as if laxative teas (not genes and Money) explained their enviable physique. "Give us discount codes to your nutritionists, personal chefs, personal trainers, airbrushes and plastic surgeons, bloody liars," Jamil wrote. But Jamil's last effort reminded me of the worst aspects of my life. warrior of body image. Yesterday, Khloe Kardashian published a typical article about her diet in January in her Instagram story: "What girls want: 1. Weight loss 2. Food." Jamil tweeted that this message made her sad. "Send love to this poor woman," she wrote. "This industry did it to him. The media did it. They made him ashamed in a prison of self-criticism. Dear girls, WANT MORE THAN THAT. Jamil went on today saying that she did not care about her "humorlessness", she will continue to speak out against "anything that encourages the mentality of the eating disorder" until she "does not care". that we are "bored".[ed] in the submission. "

That makes me sad. I hope my daughter will grow up and want more than that. I want more than that. Sending love to this poor woman. This industry did it to him. The media did it. They made him ashamed in a prison of self-criticism. Dear girls, WANT MORE THAN THAT. ❤️ – Jameela Jamil (@jameelajamil) January 10, 2019

I do not want to defend Khloe Kardashian, executive producer of Corps of revengebut I liked the same. This does not sum up the entire female experience, but it is an aspect. What women are conditioned to want requires to deprive themselves of all that they want. It is a trap of Greek mythology, that Khloe – the sister who has publicly struggled with his weight in the family most concerned about the image of the United States – knows it well. And it's a bit funny, in a dark style.

I do not care how I find myself humorless or boring, I'll make it too difficult to get out of phobia with fats, jokes, shame and food and, frankly, everything that encourages the eating disorder mentality. I will bother you in the submission. Look at me. – Jameela Jamil (@jameelajamil) January 11, 2019

Nevertheless, I remember how angry I was about jokes like Kardashian's, and how perverse and critical I felt about other women. If a classmate mentioned that he had read the elliptical in art history, it was as if it was boasting. If a friend had a chicken finger salad at the restaurant on Friday, she was messy. A Christmas break, my mother made a kind comment about all the holiday indulgence in our house and I took it abruptly. Something about how the notion of "good" and "bad" foods contributed to my "toxic" relationship with food and my body, and I could not talk about that kind of talk. After years of sympathizing with the fact that the company had damaged me and my peers, my mother hinted that my own fixation on the subject could make matters worse for me. "I'm afraid it's a problem for you. Women talk about dieting all the time. It's like a background noise. "

If Khloe Kardashian follows a diet that makes her feel helpless, she is not a poor woman. She is extremely normal. According to the Boston Medical Center, 45 million Americans diet each year and 30 million Americans will have a eating disorder at some point, according to the National Eating Disorder Association. Two-thirds of Americans are overweight or obese and, rightly or wrongly, health professionals are joining the media choir to tell them that they need to lose weight. I would have liked to be able to follow Jamil on Twitter when I was younger. I would also have liked to follow the Instagram accounts that generate diet memes like the one Kardashian posted. I know I should not worry about perfection and false perfection described in all other Instagram posts; the same are the recognition that they make me feel bad anyway.
We all live in this mentally unhealthy "prison of self-criticism". Some people react while dieting. I was starting to feel a little less unhealthy once I stopped reading the tabloids that watched the weight of celebrities and blogs criticizing tabloids for doing so. I no longer feel like I have to look in a certain way and I do not claim to have totally eradicated that feeling. I care a lot less about body image and dieting, but I talk a little about it with friends, between books, politics, career and money. If I did not do it, I would feel more alone in my irrational, harassing, and periodic self-loathing. And I missed a lot of opportunities to tell other women, "lol, you're beautiful, we're all sick in the head."(# You might also like,,)