If you are tired of being bombarded with ridiculous marketing emails that give Valentines Day in the least sexy products (foot cream, serious?), Then you are lucky. But imagine how this all should feel if you do not feel a romantic or sexual attraction. Without having to feel all the talk about romance and faithful dovey shit, it must be a little annoying and isolating for those who identify as asexual or aromantic, right?

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Cosmopolitan UK spoke to three YouTube creators about their identity and how Valentine's Day is for them. "I'm crazy and can not tell me – but I'm happy for the people who enjoy it"
Connie Glynn, 24, from London, identifies herself as bisexual, aromantic and polyamorous. You can subscribe to her YouTube channel and follow her twitter and Instagram."I always had problems in relationships, felt like I was playing or" deceiving "the person because I did not like them as much as I expected … It confused me because I love watching and reading about romance but never felt that it was "real." I discovered aromantism when I Googled: "Am I unable to love?" It led me to some amazing pieces written by aromantics and it clicked immediately I did not feel weird anymore, or as I was doing something wrong, and I realized that love and romantic love are very different things.

Asexual and aromantic people on Valentine's Day

Connie Glynn

"I love a lot of people, but I do not feel romantic love, this means that I do not strive for relationships at all, I am a very busy person who takes my work incredibly seriously, I do not have time for it, and even if I had the time, I do not have the desire. I still occasionally date with people when I have time, but I am very frank that I will never feel romantic love for them – and that they should not expect that it will be a relationship. That is why I also identify myself as polyamorous, I am very happy for the people I see being in relationships with other people as long as everyone knows what is going on and nobody is being misled.

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"I love many people, but I do not feel romantic love"

"I have never celebrated Valentine's Day, and not out of hatred for the holidays, I am still fond of all the beautiful decorations and chocolates, I have never had a reason for it and I never doubt it. My most memorable Valentine's Day was last year when my roommate her boyfriend had and [she text me] Early in the morning, "We order McDonald's breakfast, do you want something?" I'm not one of those people who think it's a stupid cheap business vacation that was exclusively designed to sell tickets. Even if I find it a bit weird and can not tell, I am very happy for all people who enjoy it.
"Finding other aromantics and LGBTQ + people through my videos was great for all of us, it would be great to see more discussion about aromanticism in the future, I hate to think about how many people there should be. are those who feel how I used to be, without any idea that they are completely normal and there are many of us who feel the same, I have seen big leaps in the consciousness of LGBTQ + thanks to the ability to talk about it openly – where they might not be able to be in their normal life. "" My Platonic relationships are just as meaningful "Emi Salida, 19, from London identifies herself as asexual and gray / aromantic. You can subscribe to her YouTube channel and follow her twitter and Instagram."I discovered that I was asexual in the summer of 2015, just after my 16th birthday. One of my friends made a video that mentioned asexuality and I found it very interesting. After watching that video, I spent a solid month. looking for what asexuality really meant, and it was just so logical for me, I had not worked out my sexuality because I did not really have one to find (for lack of a better term).

Emi Salida on Valentine's Day

Emi Salida

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"For me, [asexuality] is just a lack of sexual attraction and I usually get rid of relational matters. I go through my life in much the same way as someone else just minus these elements. The real aspect of sex or sexual behavior is simply not something that appeals to me. [My] romantic orientation [is something] I still discover every day. But when I feel romantic attraction, it is very unusual, so I usually consider myself as gray-romantic. "I never really understood Valentine's Day when I was little, I knew it was a" day of love "in which everything was focused on relationships and appreciating your partner, but I thought people gave each other Valentine's Day cards in the same way as they give each other Christmas cards.

"People feel pressured to be in a relationship"

"[One] What always brings me around Valentine's Day is that people are complaining about how they & # 39; forever alone & # 39; feel and & # 39; nobody will go to love them & # 39 ;. I know that is not really the case, but people feel pressured to be in a relationship or to have a date around Valentine's Day. And I know that I will never be alone because Platonic relationships are just as meaningful. "There has never been much information online about asexuality, you always have to dig to find places like Asexuality Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), and I've been lucky enough to find some of the videos I've done when I tried to feel less alone, comments I left on YouTube are the kind of reactions I get to my channel every day, I have met so many of these people in real life and have been talking about how we feel and how we are not alone in our sexuality or our experiences, it never makes me laugh. "" Valentine's Day is a great social reminder that I am different "
Evan Edinger, 28, from London, identifies himself as a heterosexual and someone on an asexual scale. You can subscribe to his YouTube channel and follow him twitter and Instagram."I pointed out to someone that the way I (when I complained about dating or something like that) came pretty close to a term they had recently learned demysexually, I did my own research and was surprised to find so much of it. the description of my actual experiences tuned.

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"I have experienced several situations where things could have developed if I had wanted to, but in all cases I politely rejected it." Most of the people I've worked with have had incredible understanding, which helps a lot. "I went to data where that is of course one day in conversation, and other times after three dates.It is difficult to be with someone on the same page, especially when I first meet the asexual scale. here. Some people mingle on asexual scale with choosing not to be sexual, which is simply not the case. Just as people do not choose which sex they are attracted to, asexuals do not choose not to have sexual feelings for someone.

Evan Edinger on Valentine's Day if you are asexual

Evan Edinger

"I never really celebrated Valentine's Day. For me it is only a day of the year where it is expected that it is too romantic with your significant other. You do not necessarily need a specific day to do that, but I think it's good that there is a day to do something over the top. I have never really had the opportunity to take advantage of the romance on this particular day, but I enjoy the discounted chocolates on the 15th like the next. "For me more recently, it's just a little reminder of my sexuality and how I personally feel that it stops me, I'm in a constant war of acceptance and rejection, and Valentine's Day is always a big social reminder that I'm different . "

"I am in a constant war of accepting and rejecting my sexuality"

"I never expected anything to come from the video I had uploaded five years ago and that spoke about my personal experience in discovering my sexuality. Fast forward to the present and that video is one of my most watched videos, with many people on asexual forums that said their first encounter with understanding their own sexuality went through my video. It is good to know that the fact that I am open about my sexuality on the platform they have helps them to feel more valid and to make them feel more normal. "